On relationships

There are things in life that aren't easy to handle. Relationships are one of them. Because we are relational beings, we can't help but but be affected with all that transpire between and among those surrounding our circles. Any glimpse of joy and sorrow, hope and despair, conflict and peace are always consciously and unconsciously shared with the rest of humanity, far and near.

I have my equal share of these seemingly difficult to handle things. I am talking about my family. It is very hard not to get affected. At the same time, it is so dramatically suffocating to get attuned to what each member is going through. Still, amidst all these conflicted paradigms, I come across a very sublime way of dealing with anything like this. I have to be centered. I don't have to forget that life only gives us something that we can handle. We just need to be steady for any hint of panic will surely devastate the natural course of things.

A friend confided to me today about her ordeal concerning her relationship with a boyfriend. I see that she's undergoing a vicious cycle of "what to do about this relationship?" syndrome. AS Yogins, that's what we call ourselves, I help her acknowledge that there is always this thing called "letting go." There are just things in life that don't matter in the end. Even people.

Any relationship has to be a good one. Something that allows the participant to grow, to breathe, to be. If there is any form of oppression, I guess it's time to change gear.

Life offers us choices. At the end of the day, I guess we have to make sure that we are doing justice to ourselves because it is only by doing so that we can be of great relationship with others.

Namaste!

My family's visit

upon arrival, @Savory Chicken

My weekend was very busy as I had to attend to my family who came for a short visit.My brother and I had to take care of their needs.The 8 of us confined ourselves in my little abode.It was a riot as expected.The very energetic clan gathered so there was no time wasted.Conversations about life overwhelmed the place.There were times that i got so annoyed as I was already showing signs of a bad health.It was my first time after so many years that we had done such a get together.Most of the time we were caught sharing meals.Back at home, though we were in one house we didnt get to eat at the table together as we were also very busy with individual affairs.I was very glad for the mealtime   that we shared over the weekend.

Papa and Mama

It was only during this visit that I clearly noticed how my parents aged a lot. Papa, who was the usual active person is thinning.Mama has been limping too. My heart until now aches as I want so much for them to be healthy always. I can only do what i can to really help them ease their lives.


My sisters are  also grown ups now.Despite their  still fun loving nature, there is always that sense of adulthood in them.Their sons are already growing.They need to grow more than these bunch of gigglers.

with my sisters, Dynah and Doreen

                      

I am alone again in my sanctuary.I have missed the voices of the people here.I have missed my nephews' bantering, my sisters' annoying remarks, my parents' bickering and of course my brothers pestering me at times.These are all in a good way, of course.


What is family for me then?
Simply it is a unit of unique individuals. The imperfections that we have are what make this family click.I wish for more moments like last  weekend.

with Mama and Bro boyet watching PBA games

with my nephews,Andhy and goodie

MY FAMILY